Beginner’s Guide to Choosing Fantasy & Realistic Dildos: Firmness, Colors, & Samples
Introduction: Your Ultimate Guide to Fantasy and Realistic Dildos
Choosing your first fantasy dildo or realistic sex toy can feel overwhelming with so many options in shapes, sizes, firmness levels, and colors. At Mr. Hankey’s Toys—trusted since 2015 for premium adult fantasy toys & real lifecastings—this beginner’s guide simplifies the process. Authored by Michael Mickey, our lead designer with over 10 years of silicone molding expertise, this guide covers firmness, colors, sample packs, and more to help you find the best dildo for your desires, whether you’re exploring a mythical dragon dildo or a realistic BBC dildo.
This ~1,500-word guide answers key questions for first-time buyers, ensuring a safe and satisfying experience. Discover how to select the ideal toy, steer clear of common pitfalls, and explore our body-safe materials. Rated 4.8/5 by thousands of customers, our advice is informed by honest user feedback to make your journey confident and fun.
Why Choose Handmade Fantasy & Realistic Dildos?
Unlike mass-produced toys, every dildo at Mr. Hankey’s is handcrafted from 100% platinum-cured silicone, ensuring safety and uniqueness. Here’s what sets us apart:
- Artisanal Craftsmanship: Each toy has slight variations in texture or finish due to hand-pouring, making your realistic sex toy one-of-a-kind.
- Hand-Mixed Colors: Vibrant shades like Burnt Ember or fiery red are mixed in small batches, ensuring no two toys are identical.
- Safe & Durable: Our silicone meets FDA standards (21 CFR 177.2600) for skin safety, tested via OECD 439 for non-irritation. Explore our fantasy dildo collection to see why users compare our quality to that of our major competitors.
Choosing the Best Firmness Level for Beginner Dildos
Firmness impacts comfort and sensation. Mr. Hankey’s offers three levels to suit all preferences:
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Firmness |
Flexibility |
Best For |
User Feedback |
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40% Soft |
High flexibility, softer feel |
Beginners, gentle play, or more comfortable use with larger toys. |
“Perfect for easing into larger sizes.” – Verified Buyer |
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75% Medium |
Balanced flexibility and firmness |
Beginner & Intermediate users, all around, our most popular Firmness. |
“Great for both comfort and intensity.” – Rated 4.8/5 |
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Medium- Firm |
Rigid, intense sensation |
Advanced users, targeted stimulation |
“Ideal for prostate play—feels lifelike.” – Verified Buyer |
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Extra-Firm |
Maximum Intensity |
Advanced users for larger toys, acceptable for beginners with smaller toys. |
“Extra-Firm is unrelenting” – Verified Buyer
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Pro Tip: Start with a Sample Pack, or if you can’t wait, opt for our 75% firm option for a realistic feel, as 65% of our buyers recommend it for first-timers. Check our FAQ for details. If you have any questions before ordering, please reach out to us at [email protected], and we’ll be glad to assist. We offer the best customer service in the industry – you get a real human every time, and we respond quickly, so you don’t have to wait days for a reply.
Exploring Vibrant, Hand-Mixed Colors
Our color options add personality to your toy:
- Fantasy Colors: Think dragon-inspired metallic greens or Burnt Ember for mythical vibes.
- Realistic Tones: Flesh-like shades mimic human anatomy for authentic play.
- Sample Packs: Test colors/firmness with our 2-inch mini samples (5/5 from 600+ reviews). View sample pack gallery. No two toys are identical due to batch mixing, ensuring exclusivity.
Sample Packs: Test Before You Buy
Our sample pack allows you to try different firmness levels and colors before making a commitment. Each pack includes:
- Three 2-inch samples (Custom Packer Firmness, 40%, 75%, Medium-Firm, and Extra-Firm firmness).
- Color Swatches (e.g., Natural Tan, Metallic Green, Bubblegum Pink, Deep Brown & Black).
- Find more in our FAQs. “Helped me pick the perfect 40% medium dragon dildo!” – Verified Buyer, 2025. Try yours to find the best beginner dildo.
Common Mistakes to Avoid as a First-Time Buyer
Avoid these pitfalls for a better experience:
- Choosing Too Large: Start with smaller sizes (e.g., 6-8” insertable) to build comfort. If you are looking for smaller toys, we have plenty. Explore our Xtra-Small Series I, II, & III
- Wrong Lube: Use lubes from our Accessories page; all of our lubes are compatible with our toys.
- Skipping Cleaning: Always wash post-use to maintain hygiene.
- Ignoring Firmness: Overly firm toys can overwhelm beginners—opt for 40% or 75% soft unless you are sure that you want a firmer toy.
Fantasy vs. Realistic Dildos: What’s Right for You?
- Realistic Dildos: Mimic human anatomy with veins and textures (e.g., Wade Wolfgar lifecasting). Ideal for lifelike sensations.
- Fantasy Dildos: Feature mythical designs (e.g., dragon, monster dildos) for creative play. Perfect for adventurous users. Compare options in our realistic vs. fantasy guide.
Top Tips for First-Time Dildo Buyers
- Start Small: Choose a 6-8” insertable length, per 70% of user reviews.
- Test with Samples: Our sample pack helps you find your ideal firmness/color.
- Use Plenty of Lube: All the lubricants offered on our website are compatible with our toys.
- Clean Properly: Wash with mild soap; store separately. Learn more in our care guide.
- Explore Gradually: Try realistic for familiarity or fantasy for fun, based on your comfort.
How to Care for Your Dildo
- Cleaning: Wash with warm water and fragrance-free soap before/after use; boil for 3-5 minutes for deep cleaning.
- Storage: Keep in a cool, dust-free bag to prevent silicone interaction or store on a soft surface such as a towel in a clean and dry area.
- Lubricants: Use our recommended lubricants to preserve your toy’s surface. See our FAQs for additional information or reach out to our customer service; we’re here to help!
Why Mr. Hankey’s Toys?
With over a decade of expertise, Mr. Hankey’s Toys (AKA Hankey’s Toys) is a leader in lab-tested, body-safe, handcrafted dildos. Our 4.8/5 rating, based on thousands of happy customers, reflects our commitment to quality. “The sample pack made choosing my first dragon dildo so easy!” – Verified Buyer, 2025.
FAQs: Your Questions About Fantasy & Realistic Dildos Answered
What firmness is best for beginners?
The 75% firm option offers a realistic and comfortable feel, according to user reviews.
Do handmade dildos match product photos?
Slight variations in color/texture occur due to handcrafting, ensuring uniqueness.
What’s the difference between realistic and fantasy dildos?
Realistic mimic anatomy; fantasy features mythical designs like dragon dildos.
Are Mr. Hankey’s toys body-safe?
Yes, all use platinum-cured silicone, which has been tested via OECD 439 for safety.
How does the sample pack help?
Test firmness/colors to choose the best toy, rated 5/5 by buyers.
Conclusion: Start Your Dildo Journey with Confidence
Your first dildo is a personal choice. At Mr. Hankey’s Toys, our handcrafted designs, customizable firmness, and vibrant colors ensure a tailored experience. Start with our sample pack or explore our full collection to find your perfect match. Shop now with discreet shipping and join thousands of satisfied customers!
